क - क्लेश - Conflict
प - प्रेम - Passion / Love
ल - लक्ष्य - Life-goal
Some conflict shall always be there. This would simply be due to the differing nature of the two individuals. Yet, some love too would also be there, no matter how silent and not to mention, passion or mutual attraction!
Both the above elements are unescapable. They shall co-exist for every couple, of course to varying degrees, however, what eventually decides the sucess, meaningfulness or longevity of a relationship?
That element is shared life-goals.
A couple may come together, initially, due to either biological attraction or social situation, nevertheless, to be living happily forever and after, the element most essential is shared-life-goals.
Let me give you a few examples:
1. Dr. Sudha Murthy & Dr. Narayan Murthy
2. Dr. Mandakani & Dr. Prakash Baba Amte
3. Paresh Raval* & Swaroop Sampat
All couples joined by shared life goals!
(*Actor, father, spouse.)
Among my personal contacts, I can instantly recall two cases of similar order:
- Odette & Joe Mascarenhas - Masters of Goan cuisine &
- Deepa & Milind Soman - Owners of Lumiere - India's premier market research firm.
Otherwise, every couple would have their own set of challenges and pressures, yet, if they can find a few shared goals for life, then things can be very different between them.
Yes, identifying these shared goal may not come naturally to every couple. Therefore, for this, I suggest a simple way to make a beginng.
Find yourself a common activity or set of activities to be done together that both of you would enjoy.
Mind you, this may not necessarily be anything big or huge or elaborate, instead anything simple, yet immensely pristine and precious for the two individuals.
For example: On and off, we as a couple, meaning my better-half and I, try stealing some innocent moments together, as in the picture below, here, enjoying a cutting-chai on a rainy afternoon and getting ourselves clicked.
Our lives are otherwise quite different. It has several limitations as well. Still, because somehow we keep getting these ideas for stealing such invaluable cozy moments together, hence the relationship keeps jiving as well.
Therefore even simple shared objectives in life can make a big difference in a couple's relationship as well as quality of life.
In my work as a meditation teacher, the most interesting opportunity comes for me, when a couple comes learning from me.
Teaching meditation to a couple is undoubtedly an assignment of the greatest satisfaction for me.
Not merely because I am myself an householder, but also, because, a couple is the most basic unit of the society.
Moreover, when a couple finds its collective harmony with each other, it is the entire society that benefits from that achievement.
No doubt, the couples mentioned in the examples above are all great achievers. Further, in their relationship, they have passed the test of time over and over. For none of them there would have been any time without pressures or challenges and yet with their collective wisdom and a spirit of teamwork, they have always execlled in every situation.
So, my message for the day, to all couples:
- mind not your differences,
- have faith in your love and in parallel,
- find yourself a few shared goals for life as well as for everyday existence.
Finally, from the spiritual perspective, never forget that if Mother Parvati and Lord Shiva are eternal lovers, then simultaneously, they are eternal meditators as well. It is this collective quality that makes them the eternal couple.
Similarly, the possibilities of your relationship too are always infinite. Never let that faith leave you ever. Merely a few suitable choices can make the big difference. Always remember that.
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